Why Did You Leave
Examining some reasons for local church shrinkage
Why Did You Leave?
Are you part of a congregation that was once thriving but now faces a decline in numbers? The phenomenon of shrinking congregations among God's people is a prevalent issue, influenced by various factors that congregations may or may not control. In this article, we will explore one specific aspect of this phenomenon: the departure of individuals from one sound congregation to another sound congregation.
Exploring Common Excuses for Leaving
Among the multitude of reasons people offer for leaving a congregation, four primary excuses stand out. Yet, these excuses are rooted in selfishness and often reflect a lack of spiritual maturity. The four frequently cited reasons for leaving a congregation for another are:
1. "This congregation has no youth." It's puzzling to consider this reason. If each individual left a congregation due to the absence of a specific demographic, it could lead to further divisions based on age, gender, race, and class. Reflect upon these passages: Acts 10:34; Romans 2:11; Ephesians 6:9; Colossians 3:25; James 2:1,9; 1 Peter 1:17. Do we truly believe that our worship should be guided by demographics? If a specific demographic isn't present, let it be an incentive to engage in evangelism. While the excuse may focus on youth, it applies to all groups. This excuse often springs from a desire to prioritize one group over others.
2. "This congregation isn't active enough." This excuse lacks depth. If you find a congregation's level of activity unsatisfactory, take the initiative to contribute actively. Engage in the Lord's work (Gal. 6:9) and heed Paul's instruction in Philippians 2:12: "work out your own salvation with fear and trembling." This verse doesn't imply redefining salvation but underscores the ongoing commitment to spiritual growth. If those who left due to perceived inactivity returned and actively participated, congregations would thrive with abundant activities.
3. "This congregation has no elders." This excuse is readily and easily addressed. If you're a man in a congregation without elders, aspire to become one. If you're a woman, prioritize being an elder's wife. If neither is feasible, ensure your children value the role of elders and their wives so that they aspire to fulfill those roles. The Greek term for "desire" in "if a man desires the office of bishop" conveys that Christian converts ought to naturally progress towards becoming bishops/elders (1 Tim. 3:1). Let's move beyond excuses and emphasize grooming men and women to become elders and elder’s wives. If everyone who left due to the absence of elders returned and engaged in this process, the shortage would be overcome.
4. "This congregation isn't friendly enough." Among the excuses, this one appears most immature. If you perceive unfriendliness, be the one to extend friendship. Proverbs 18:24 reads, "a man that hath friends must shew himself friendly." Building meaningful relationships takes time and effort, typically spanning 7 days to 7 years. While a gradual process, it's rewarding. If those who left due to perceived unfriendliness returned and demonstrated friendliness, they would experience a welcoming congregation.
Concluding Thoughts
Notice the common thread: every response to the excuses involves returning and being part of the solution. To those who have left congregations for these or similar reasons, consider returning to your original congregations. Through dedicated efforts and a focus on sowing spiritual seeds, you can be instrumental in revitalizing the congregation you once departed from.