Addressing the Challenge of Being Overlooked by Church Elders

Growth Trough Difficult Conversations

Addressing the Challenge of Being Overlooked by Church Elders

Growth Through Difficult Conversations

The following article is my response to a question asked in private during one of my Cogitations podcast episodes.

Here is the question:
What if you have reached out to the elders expressing to them "put me to work!" and they keep saying "we will get back with you" but nothing happens.

Here is the article we were discussing during the podcast episode:
Being Overlooked: https://open.substack.com/pub/christianitynow/p/being-overlooked?r=2q6w2w&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

The question raised here is both poignant and relevant, especially in light of a previously discussed article on being overlooked within religious and other communities. The feeling of being underutilized, particularly when one is eager to contribute, can be disheartening. Yet, it is a complex issue that demands a nuanced approach. Below, we will explore multiple angles through which to approach this predicament, substantiated with scriptural insights.

Scriptural Foundations

In the Book of James, Chapter 2, Verse 18, it is written: "Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works." This passage suggests that faith should manifest through action. In the context of feeling overlooked within your church community, you might feel that your faith is bursting at the seams, waiting to be actualized through deeds, yet your enthusiasm is met with delay or dismissal.

Assess Your Contributions

As the Apostle Paul writes in Romans, Chapter 12, Verses 4-6: "For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office: So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another. Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us." It is essential to remember that not all gifts, better conceptualized in the 21st century as talents, are obvious or easily categorized. Before assuming that you are being overlooked or underutilized, assess the specific contributions you can make. Your self-appraisal should be rooted in humility and honesty.

Direct Initiative

Sometimes, bureaucracy or inertia may hinder elders from efficiently allocating work within the community. If you feel overlooked, taking the initiative to start smaller projects or volunteering for existing ones may get you noticed. Direct involvement is often more impactful than a generic offer to help. In the Book of Proverbs, Chapter 22, Verse 29: "Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men." Diligence and initiative are highly valued and usually lead to greater responsibilities.

Open Dialogue and Self-Assessment

If a lack of response persists, consider initiating a sincere dialogue with the Elders, always mindful that your service is unto the Lord first, as emphasized in Colossians 3:23-24. Pose straightforward questions about the congregation's needs and where you could be of service. Take this opportunity to perform a thorough self-assessment to ensure your skills and aspirations align with these needs, serving as an act of devotion unto the Lord.

Explore Other Avenues

If you've exhausted these avenues without progress, you may begin considering other congregations. However, this should be a last resort after earnest effort to integrate into your current community. The Apostle Paul writes in 1 Corinthians, Chapter 12, Verses 27-28: "Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular. And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers." Each congregation has its own needs and dynamics, and it's possible that your talents may find better application elsewhere. However, any transition should be conducted transparently and respectfully to maintain unity within the body of Christ.

Independent Action with Congregational Respect

Paul writes in Ephesians, chapter 2, verse 10, that Christians are called to good works. Bearing this in mind, you don't always need formal approval from the Elders to serve the church. As a trusted friend and elder said, "Shepherds do shepherd work and trust that the sheep will do their own work." If an online ministry aligns with your skills, for instance, move forward but clarify that it's a personal initiative, not an official church venture. Though coordinating with the Elders is beneficial, their absence of immediate feedback shouldn't halt your own responsible actions. In this manner, you both serve the community and uphold the congregation's integrity. You will also feel fulfilled and needed in the congregation where you are.

Conclusion

Being overlooked when eager to contribute can be frustrating and test one's faith. However, such instances also present opportunities for introspection, personal growth, and perhaps a greater role in your spiritual community down the line. In your journey, remember that your individual contributions—though beneficial when aligned with your congregation's direction—can also stand as testaments to your faith and commitment. You may not always have the Elders' immediate guidance, but, remember, you do not need it to do the Lord’s work. This balance of independent action and congregational respect readies the soil for future growth and harvests. The ultimate goal remains the same: to serve the Lord and contribute meaningfully to your community. Your "due season" might not coincide with your timeline, but by adhering to scriptural wisdom and keeping a respectful, proactive stance, you prepare the field for future blessings.